Your Position of Defense – FEAR

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The type of defence in which the bulk of the defending force is disposed of in selected tactical localities where the decisive battle is to be fought. Principal reliance is placed on the ability of the forces in the defended localities to maintain their positions and to control the terrain between them.

I grow up herring everyone defending their positions in life. I’m not in a relationship because I do not want to be abused, I don’t want to get married because married are not happy and are divorced every day, I don’t want to be rich, rich people have bid problems and not happy. There even a song that has a line that confirms this by Puff Daddy. I thought It was just me seeing things but even myself I found myself defending my position in life. I got married very early in life, I defended by saying I wanted to things while they are chip to do. Later on, I found myself defending the issue of getting kids late in our marriage, I do not want my kids to suffer the same way I did.

The wise man said fear reaction starts in the brain and spreads through the body to make adjustments for the best defence, or flight reaction. The fear response starts in a region of the brain called the amygdala. This almond-shaped set of nuclei in the temporal lobe of the brain is dedicated to detecting the emotional salience of the stimuli – how much something stands out to us. A large part of the human brain, just like the brain of other animals, is devoted to threat detection. These circuits are constantly evaluating our internal and external state for threats. This cannot be conscious, because that’s too slow. It’s deep in the brain below the cerebral cortex, where consciousness arises, in a region called the hypothalamic attack region.   

One believes that we all defend our position because of fear. The Top 10 Fears That Hold People Back in Life, According to a Psychotherapist

Change: We live in a rapidly changing world. However, many people fear change. As a result, they resist it. The fear of change can cause people to become stagnant and they may miss out on a lot of really good opportunities in life.

Loneliness: Sometimes people stay in bad relationships or resist living alone due to their fear of loneliness. Learning how to tolerate feeling lonely and finding ways to keep yourself company can help manage the fear of loneliness.

Failure: One of the top fears in the world is the fear of failure. Many people won’t try something new unless they’re confident they can win. Failure is a normal part of life and learning from failure can help you find eventual success.

Rejection: Many people avoid entering into new relationships or trying to meet new people due to a fear of rejection. Even married people often avoid approaching a long-time spouse to ask for something due to a fear that the person will say no. Whether you’ve got a fear of your boss declining your request for a raise or a fear that the attractive person won’t go on a date with you, don’t let the fear of rejection hold you back and do it anyway.

Uncertainty: The fear of uncertainty often prevents people from trying something different. They often worry, “What if I don’t like it?” This fear can prevent people from trying new things or doing things differently from the way they’ve always been done.

Something Bad Happening: Bad things happen in life. It’s inevitable. However, when people constantly fear something bad happening, it often restricts their activities. They may avoid doing a lot of things or going to certain places due to an unrealistic fear that bad things may happen.

Getting Hurt: We should all have some fear of getting hurt. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t look both ways before you crossed the street. However, people who have a big fear of being emotionally hurt often refuse to enter into relationships. They may avoid friendships, keep family at an arm’s length, and skip romantic relationships due to a fear that they won’t be able to handle getting hurt.

Being Judged: People who worry that they’ll be judged negatively by others often shy away from social opportunities or chances to advance their career. People who adopt this fear often exaggerate how others will perceive them negatively and underestimate their ability to tolerate not being well-received by others.

Inadequacy: One of the top fears many people share is that they’re just not good enough. They may pass up opportunities for a promotion or may decline an opportunity to lead a group because they worry that they’re inadequate. Often, they overcompensate for their fears by trying to be a perfectionist but remain plagued by thoughts that they just don’t measure up to other people.

Loss of Freedom: Although we should have some fear of the loss of freedom, some people allow this fear to hold them back. Many people enjoy the freedom they have as a single person and as a result, they avoid serious relationships due to a fear that they won’t be able to tolerate the loss of freedom. Although some loss of freedom does accompany a serious relationship, it’s important to balance independence with dependence and maintain some freedoms.

One way or another, one of these Top 10 Fears Is hold Back our Life and we resort to defending our current position in life. F.E.A.R. is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. There’s no true threat of immediate physical danger, no threat of a loss of someone or something dear to us, actually nothing there at all. F.E.A.R. is an illusion.

The character of the word FEAR made me ask the positivemind question, what is in the word FEAR illustrated by quotes.

Future: “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

Expectation: “Positive expectations are the mark of the superior personality.” ― Brian Tracy,

Advance: “Opportunity doesn’t make appointments, you have to be ready when it arrives.” ― Tim Fargo

Reality: We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort. – Jesse Owens

What is the fear that is holding you back from achieving your goals and keep you from defending your current position?

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